Why Am I So Anal?

It’s all about anxiety. Source: Kaspars Grinvalds/Shutterstock By Susan Kolod, Ph.D. Patients often ask, “Why am I so anal”? Or, “Why is my partner, friend, parent, boss so anal?” Where does this term come from and what exactly does it mean? The psychological usage of this term was coined by Sigmund Freud, born 163 years … Read more

Do Your Parents Still Treat You Like a Child?

Maybe it’s because you’re acting like one! By Sue Kolod Ph.D., Source: Rawpixel/Shutterstock As the holidays approach, many people look forward to spending time with family. The warmth and familiarity are undeniable, but with that comes the threat of arguments and renewal of bad feelings. How can we avoid the bad parts and simply enjoy … Read more

What Is Healthy Narcissism?

The joy of self-love can be powerful and sustaining. Narcissism is bad, right? Google search is flooded with questions: “What is narcissism?” “How can you tell if your partner is a narcissist?” “Am I a narcissist?” So my patient Adele was surprised and intrigued when I told her that we needed to work on developing … Read more