How to Spot Projection: Are Those Their Feelings, or Yours?

Freud was the first to explain this concept. Dr. Sigmund Freud, a neurologist, is the father of psychoanalysis and first identified the concept of “projection.”Source: Photo by Max Halberstadt via Christies (Wikipedia/Public Domain) by Sue Kolod, Ph.D. This post is in honor of Dr. Sigmund Freud on the occasion of the 165th anniversary of his birth. In … Read more

Why Am I So Anal?

It’s all about anxiety. Source: Kaspars Grinvalds/Shutterstock By Susan Kolod, Ph.D. Patients often ask, “Why am I so anal”? Or, “Why is my partner, friend, parent, boss so anal?” Where does this term come from and what exactly does it mean? The psychological usage of this term was coined by Sigmund Freud, born 163 years … Read more

Why Do People Lie to Their Therapists?

There are 4 reasons people typically lie to their therapist Source: wavebreakmedia/Shutterstock Why would someone lie to their therapist? That’s totally counterproductive, right? You’re paying for it, so what would be the point? However, according to a study published in 2016 in Counseling Psychology Quarterly, of 547 adult psychotherapy clients, 93 percent reported lying to … Read more

Do Your Parents Still Treat You Like a Child?

Maybe it’s because you’re acting like one! By Sue Kolod Ph.D., Source: Rawpixel/Shutterstock As the holidays approach, many people look forward to spending time with family. The warmth and familiarity are undeniable, but with that comes the threat of arguments and renewal of bad feelings. How can we avoid the bad parts and simply enjoy … Read more

Sorry, Your Therapist Can’t Be Your Friend

Maintaining therapeutic boundaries are vital to your mental health By Susan Kolod, Ph.D. “There’s a force more powerful than free will: our unconscious. Underneath the suits, behind closed doors, we’re all ruled by the same desires. And those desires can be raw, and dark, and deeply shameful.” Source: Shutterstock/ESB Professional These opening lines, spoken by Naomi Watts … Read more

What Is Healthy Narcissism?

The joy of self-love can be powerful and sustaining. Narcissism is bad, right? Google search is flooded with questions: “What is narcissism?” “How can you tell if your partner is a narcissist?” “Am I a narcissist?” So my patient Adele was surprised and intrigued when I told her that we needed to work on developing … Read more